Feminist Aspie

The inevitable blogversary post: Oh, Where Do We Begin?

on December 30, 2013

The 2012 Christmas period was the first time I’d been home since starting university that autumn, and the combination of suddenly leaving the uni “bubble” and all of the inevitable socialising and Christmas/New Year celebrations made me realise that, despite identifying as a feminist and noticing the constant presence of sexism (and many other oppressions) far more than I used to, I still had a really hard time actually standing up to it, calling it out, questioning it out loud rather than just quietly to myself. So, in an attempt to start doing something about that (and, if I’m honest, out of procrastination), I decided to start a blog. I’ve always felt far more comfortable behind a keyboard with space to think than in front of people who can’t un-listen to what I say even if I totally mess it up, so I guess using the internet to vent in a way I couldn’t in real life seemed like an obvious solution. What I wasn’t counting on was that I’d remember the blog for longer that about a month and, shock horror, actual people would, for some strange reason, start reading the thing. Essentially, even one year on, I still have absolutely no idea what I’m doing and I’m still a little bit scared.

I have learned so much from the people I follow and/or talk to on both Twitter and WordPress; I’m more aware of my own privileges, and I hope this means I’m less likely to mess up. If I do mess up, please let me know so I can do something about it! Following on from that point, I’ve made mistakes, I’ve asked questions that are none of my business, I’ve waded into arguments when I shouldn’t have done so, and for that I can only apologise.

On the plus side, slowly but surely, I’m getting better at pointing out sexism as and when I see it, which I suppose was the primary aim of setting up this blog (at least from a purely selfish point of view). This, amongst other things, has led to a great deal of to-ing and fro-ing with regard to my anonymity (or lack thereof) which I guess is massively confusing. To clear things up: Nobody (well, almost nobody) in my offline life knows that this blog exists and for the time being I’d like to keep it that way, but at the same time, I talk about myself and my life perhaps a little bit too much, so people who, for some strange reason, actually read this thing regularly will end up knowing quite a bit about my actual real-life self. It’s basically one-way anonymity, it’s probably not sustainable, and I wouldn’t recommend it, but here we are.

I also tend to go off on tangents quite a bit. Since about February, I’ve been blogging not only about feminism but also about autism and the neurodiversity movement; again, I’ve learned so much more about neurodiversity and ableism/disablism from people I’ve interacted with as FeministAspie, and I don’t consider this particular topic as “going off on a tangent” because I’ve grown to see FeministAspie as a dual-purpose blog (as the name suggests). Unfortunately for the people who, for some strange reason, actually read this thing, I’ve also spent a lot of time moaning about the weather, rambling about Doctor Who, offering/enforcing entirely imaginary cups of tea, rambling about Doctor Who, whining about my life, rambling about Doctor Who, and occasionally shoehorning Bastille into my posts for no good reason (this is the part where you look up at this post’s title, say “ohhhhhh”, and roll your eyes). Oh, and did I mention Doctor Who? Sorry about that. Another thing I’m sorry about is occasionally abandoning the blog and/or Twitter. I’m aware that I’m really not very good at this. I guess life sort of gets in the way sometimes.

Anyway, seeing as the blogversary coincides quite neatly with New Year, I’ve actually bothered to make resolutions (which I probably won’t stick to, sorry in advance) and two of them are actually relevant to the blog:

  1. Stop constantly incessantly comparing myself to others and thinking about how they see me, because as you may have noticed from recent posts, it’s really getting to me, and all that inadequacy stuff really can’t be healthy. Sorry, this resolution is the one that isn’t really about the blog. Next!
  2. ACTUALLY BLOG REGULARLY. Post about autism one week, then feminism the next week, and so on. I know I said I’d do this back in October and that didn’t last very long, but hopefully I can find a way to make it a routine.
  3. Write blog posts that are actually about feminism and autism (and other intersecting oppressions and related social justice) rather than just rambling about my life… I am aware that this contradicts this very post. Oops.

And finally, THANK YOU! Thank you for being the people who, for some strange reason, actually read this thing, and like and comment and share and whatever else. Thank you for putting up with the sporadic updates, the bad paragraphing, the going off on tangents, and that “temporary” profile picture I never got round to changing. But most importantly, thank you for teaching me so much about feminism, and intersectionality, and blogging, and everything in between. Thank you so, so much.


17 responses to “The inevitable blogversary post: Oh, Where Do We Begin?

  1. I quite enjoy the ones where you ramble about your life.

    On the inadequacy thing, I have a very wise friend who once told me to stop comparing my insides with other people’s outsides. Are you doing a bit of that maybe?

    Never apologise about rambling about Doctor Who 😉

    • “Never apologise about rambling about Doctor Who.” – I think I’ve just found New Year’s Resolution number 4!!! 😀

      I’m sure I’ve seen the phrase “comparing your insides to other people’s outsides” before (probably on Tumblr), and I definitely do that. Must. Stop. Doing. That. xD

  2. suburp says:

    Well. All the Best to you! For the new year, in life and on the blog. I am a sporadic follower but I like your resolutions. 🙂 and the first one is definitively one I should be taking for my own life, too!
    I wish you a great 2014, all around 🙂

  3. alexforshaw says:

    All the best to you for 2014! ❤ Love your first resolution too, but please don't put yourself under too much pressure to keep the other two: sometimes it helps to just rant about whatever is on your mind. Besides, some of your tangents have been fascinating! 😀

  4. Happy blogversary. A good friend of mine once reminded me: “None of us have it together. Some of us are just better at pretending [to be normal – as Liane Holliday would say] than others.”

    I like your Doctor Who rambles as well. Blog anonymity is a tricky thing — for me, writing online feels like curated journaling. It’s somewhat controllable, but at the same time a terribly intimate process.

    • Thank you! 🙂 Yeah, I started off totally anonymous, but then as you start talking to people, information sort of comes out…

      Really, really, REALLY surprised by the number of “but I like the going off on tangents!” comments I’ve seen. I guess today I learned a thing! xD

  5. I like all your ramblings, especially Doctor Who, so please don’t stop! Happy blogversary 🙂

    • Thank you!! 🙂

      I’ve had quite a few comments along those lines. It’s bizarre and surprising that people actually seem to like the going-off-on-tangents, but hey, I guess now I know!! xD

  6. Heidi Street says:

    You’re making tea? Please!

  7. et says:

    Why be happy when you can be normal?Must read.

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