Every time I come home from university and get properly re-acquainted with domestic family life again, I always end up wanting to blog about the same topic, yet I don’t think I’ve ever made it beyond a muddled outline in my drafts. It’s difficult to articulate without feeling like I’m making a fuss over nothing. It’s a big pattern of smaller things that, taken in isolation, seem barely worth mentioning. It’s definitely there, and it definitely scares me as a young autistic woman who only just about manages to look after myself without hitting total overload half the time, but I can never quite manage to convey it in words in a remotely satisfactory way.
Luckily, a load of other people already have. Over the past few weeks I’ve come across some really great pieces online about emotional labour, constantly left to women and constantly unnoticed and unappreciated, so I thought I’d share them here:
- ““Where’s My Cut?”: On Unpaid Emotional Labor” by Jess Zimmerman – The article that inspired the MetaFilter thread below. I particularly want to draw attention to this quote on the general devaluation of work traditionally carried out by women:
“Housework is not work. Sex work is not work. Emotional work is not work. Why? Because they don’t take effort? No, because women are supposed to provide them uncompensated, out of the goodness of our hearts.”
- This condensed/organised version of a huge MetaFilter thread on emotional labour (the original thread can be found here) – A great introduction to the topic, with lots of real-life examples and responses to common questions (“Why don’t you just not do it anymore?”).
- “Workplace”/“The Adventures Of The Only Woman In The Department” by Robot Hugs – A webcomic about women/femme-presenting people in the workplace being expected to carry out all the “non-essential” labour on top of (and sometimes at the expense of) their actual jobs.
- “Christmas wouldn’t be Christmas without women doing stuff they secretly hate” by The Agoraphobic Feminist – Demanding and undervaluing women’s labour: the festive edition.
Do feel free to share further recommendations (and yes, that can totally include self-promotion) in the comments!